Portugal is a beautiful country with a rich cultural heritage, and moving here is an adventure—but it also comes with some customs that can seem a bit puzzling at first! From social etiquette to daily habits, there are unique Portuguese traditions that often leave expats scratching their heads. Here are 9 Portuguese customs that expats often find hard to understand. I’m Lisbob, the expat’s assistant, here to help you decode these cultural quirks and settle in like a local!
Kissing as a Greeting
In Portugal, greeting friends and acquaintances with two kisses on the cheek is standard, even if you’ve just met. For expats coming from cultures where greetings are more formal or limited to handshakes, this can be a bit surprising. While it’s a warm and friendly gesture, it can feel invasive to those unaccustomed to such close contact. Expats should be prepared to lean in and adapt to this greeting style—it’s seen as a welcoming gesture here. Don’t worry if you’re caught off guard the first few times; you’ll soon get the hang of it!
Taking Long Lunch Breaks
Portugal’s lunch breaks are something of an event, often lasting from 1 to 2 hours, and it’s a custom that’s cherished. Businesses frequently close for this extended lunch period, allowing people to enjoy a leisurely meal, often with family or friends. For expats used to quick lunches or working through lunch, this pause can feel unproductive. However, this tradition reflects the Portuguese focus on savoring life and making time for social connections. Embracing the long lunch is part of adapting to the relaxed pace of life here—and it’s a great excuse to enjoy Portuguese cuisine.
Arriving Fashionably Late
In Portugal, punctuality is relative, especially for social gatherings. Being a little late—10 to 15 minutes, sometimes more—is not only common but often expected. Expats from cultures where punctuality is valued might find this frustrating or even rude. However, in Portugal, it’s a sign of a more relaxed approach to time. This doesn’t mean arriving an hour late is okay, but a slight delay is perfectly normal. Adapting to this custom helps you blend in, and understanding that time isn’t always strict here can help you enjoy the laid-back lifestyle.
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Avoiding Direct Confrontation
Portuguese people tend to avoid direct confrontation and may not say exactly what they’re thinking if it could cause tension. This can lead to subtle communication or avoiding certain topics altogether, which might be confusing for expats used to more direct conversation styles. This custom stems from a desire to keep harmony and avoid conflict. If you’re dealing with sensitive issues, be prepared for a softer, more diplomatic approach. Learning to interpret these indirect cues can help expats navigate social and professional interactions smoothly.
Saying “Yes” to Be Polite
In Portugal, people may say “yes” even if they’re hesitant or unsure, simply to be polite. This can be confusing for expats who take these agreements at face value. For instance, someone might agree to plans out of courtesy but not necessarily follow through. Understanding this cultural nuance can help you avoid misinterpretations and prevent disappointment. If you sense any hesitation, it’s okay to clarify plans or follow up to confirm. Recognizing this custom can help avoid frustration and ensure clear communication.
Family Comes First
Family is central in Portuguese culture, and people often prioritize family time over other commitments. Sundays are usually reserved for family gatherings, and holidays often involve large family celebrations. Expats might find this focus on family surprising, especially if they’re used to a more independent lifestyle. For expats trying to make friends, it’s important to understand that family obligations come first for most Portuguese people. Embracing this value can help you connect more deeply with locals and understand the importance of family in daily life.
9 Portuguese Customs Expats Find Hard to Understand
Complimenting the Food…A Lot
In Portugal, meals are often a big deal, and expressing appreciation for the food is expected, especially if you’re a guest. Complimenting the cook and showing enthusiasm about the dishes is part of being a good guest. For expats, this might feel excessive, but it’s a sign of respect and gratitude for the host’s effort. Be prepared to offer genuine compliments—and eat heartily! Even if the dish isn’t your favorite, finding something positive to say will show your host that you’re grateful and respectful of their hospitality.
Embracing Small Talk
Small talk is a daily ritual in Portugal, and people love to chat about everything from the weather to football and family. Expats from more reserved cultures might find this constant friendliness overwhelming or unnecessary, but it’s a key part of building relationships here. Engaging in small talk, even just a few words, is a great way to show openness and friendliness. Avoiding small talk can make you seem distant, so take a few moments to chat when possible. It’s a small effort that goes a long way in Portuguese social life.
Drinking Coffee Standing Up
In Portugal, coffee is often enjoyed quickly, standing up at the counter of a café. Expats used to sitting down for a long coffee break might find this custom puzzling. But for locals, a quick espresso, or bica, is a fast way to recharge without taking too much time. This custom reflects the balance between socializing and efficiency—people enjoy a quick chat over coffee before moving on with their day. If you’re invited to join someone for coffee, expect it to be brief, but don’t skip the experience—it’s part of the daily rhythm in Portugal.
Thanks for joining me! I hope these insights helped you understand some of Portugal’s unique customs. I’m Lisbob, your trusty expat assistant. Until next time!
